For the Sake of Louise

(A mother's triumph over domestic abuse)

Timely and timeless domestic abuse does not recognize social status, age, gender or nationality. Statistics in the U.S. show that one in four women has experienced domestic violence in her life time. It is estimated that between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year.

Not included in these figures is emotional and mental abuse. Emotional abuse is just as evil as physical abuse. The perpetrator demeans the other and deprives her of self-respect, self-esteem, and control over her life. It could lead to isolation from the victim’s extended family. At first it may seem to be a careless remark. The husband would even apologize. Then the incidents escalate and become more frequent, until the victim gets used to the abuse, and it becomes a norm in the entire household.

Women are almost always the victims of such a type of abuse that is often unreported. One of the reasons why it is not reported could be because it is hard to prove. Visible evidence such as bruises or black eyes is absent. Another reason could be the victim’s fear that reporting the matter to the police could result in physical abuse. Threats of parental kidnapping are another reason.

My daughter, Louise, was kidnapped by her father, Ron, when I filed for divorce because of emotional and mental abuse. This devastating episode is only one of the reasons why I wrote the book, “For the Sake of Louise.” The book is a story about how I lived in an oppressive environment until I decided that I had enough. How I retrieved her was a miracle yet it did not mean that we were successful in leaving Ron. We had to stay with him, or else I may not see her again. How my daughter and I survived in that oppressive environment is part of my story and also another reason why I wrote the book. 

The most important reason why I wrote my story is my desire to help women victims who at this time of writing could be feeling hopeless and are thinking that they have reached a dead end. Many women are afraid to leave their spouses or partners because of fear. These threats are real and should not be taken for granted. Many women also feel helpless and think that they could not survive without their spouses or partners because they are financially dependent upon them. Most of these women don’t have the skills to survive in the outside world. 

"For the Sake of Louise," provides these women some important tools, inspiration, and hope by which they could discover God’s gifts of strength, wisdom, determination, and vision of the future that they may already possess. By accessing these gifts, they can survive, grow, and develop into strong and independent women. I did it, and therefore, any woman victim can.